If Love Someone Let Them Go
One of the most common questions married couples ask is, should I let my ex-love go? People’s opinions on this question vary widely.
Some people say you should hang in there and try to work things out, while others believe you should let them go because you don’t want to suffer in the long run.
After all, if you love someone that much, you would not want to see them suffer or end up in a loveless situation.
But before I answer that question, I have to ask you a question of myself; should I let my ex-love go?
If you are in a situation where you are thinking about letting your ex-love go, you are not very happy.
This is understandable. You fell in love and were together for a great deal of time. Now you feel some pain, and the thought of being apart from your partner is probably scaring you. So what do you do?
In the first instance, if you think I should let my ex-love go, you need to be very careful about what you say to them.
You must remain calm and above board and make sure you say the right things. The last thing you want to do is cause more damage than good to the relationship.
For instance, if you tell your ex-love that you think you can do better, they might take that as meaning you think you are better off without them.
What they will be thinking is that you have no use for them anymore – and that is exactly what they don’t want to hear.
You are better off if you stay in the relationship and work things out.
However, if you genuinely feel that it is a case of you or your ex-love, then you have to let them go.
It isn’t worth wrecking a perfectly good relationship over, and you certainly don’t need to do this to spite your ex-love.
If you genuinely think you can’t live with the other person anymore and if your feelings for your ex-love are stronger than the love you have for yourself, then it is best to let them go.
You don’t need to wait until your ex-love has moved on before you do.
There is also the problem if your relationship is so bad that both of you won’t want to let the other one go.
You are likely to find it very hard to let go if you love that person deeply. You are likely to resist letting them go if your love for them is as strong as your love for yourself.
Again if this is the case, you should probably try to get on with your life. This is not the route you want to take to save your relationship.
The first step is to discover why you resist the breakup. Why do you feel so strongly about wanting to let the relationship go?
Is there anything that has changed in your relationship that makes you unwilling to let them go? Only after you answer these questions can you get on with the process of letting them go.
If you want to save your relationship, you have to put your emotions on hold and follow a plan.
For if you were to let your emotions influence your choice, you would most probably ruin the chances of saving your relationship and could well end up ruining it for good.
It is far better if you follow a logical plan to let go of your ex-love.
The first step is to get together with your ex and agree that it would be best if both of you moved on and got on with your lives.
You will have to decide this after reflecting on what went wrong in your relationship. Next, talk to your partner about what they think about getting back together with you.
Then, agree to meet somewhere and get ready to do some damage control. This might mean agreeing to different plans that you both like or deciding to give each other a break for a day or two.
If you can manage to do this successfully, you will get results that will help you to let go of your ex-love.