Love Him But Have To Let Go
One of the most common questions asked by men asking how to make a guy love them more is: Will I have to let go once I find him irresistible?
Men are accustomed to dating from afar, and when someone asks them to go out with them, they are usually excited.
The excitement begins the moment they see that attractive person, because they have in their mind the images of the girl who would be their dream partner.
However, once the relationship advances, these same men sometimes realize that the girl they saw at the bar was just a picture of perfection – and it isn’t her that their heart is really set on.
For many men, the process of falling in love involves having to let go of their false dream of what their perfect relationship should be like.
They find themselves falling madly in love with this woman that they feel is the one. It’s as if the imaginary woman has planted in their minds a very real but false notion of what their lives should be like.
They start to imagine all kinds of scenarios where they will be able to go on adventures together and enjoy each other’s company – and then finally, they end up in a serious relationship.
And when it’s time to go on the trip or the weekend away, they suddenly discover that this imaginary “dream” that they’ve been imagining is not quite possible in real life.
But why do men often fall in love with women who seem so perfect for them? Well, it’s not always the case that men are incapable of feeling love for someone else.
There are many men out there who seem to love whatever they are doing – even if that something isn’t quite right with them.
For some men, love happens when he’s doing things that make him feel good about himself.
He feels good about himself, that he is growing, changing, becoming more confident, and this in itself can stir up all sorts of feelings within him.
Of course, love also happens when he’s with a woman who makes him feel inadequate.
He loves her when he feels strong and powerful in her presence, he loves her when he can walk on his own and feel safe – when all of these things are happening.
When he doesn’t feel strong and powerful in her presence, though, he gets stuck in a pattern where he’s chasing this fantasy and it becomes something else.
He’s driven to let go and to get away from this woman, and sometimes he finds himself falling back in love with her.
Another common problem is that men are just too easy to please.
Whenever a man feels like he’s been made to feel guilty, hurt, or inadequate – whenever he thinks that he has done something wrong – he goes out of his way to avoid getting love from this woman.
He does this even when the woman doesn’t mean much to him. He wants to win her over because it makes him feel better about himself, but when he is with this woman he knows that he has to keep up the facade – he has to pretend to be this flawless, amazing person that he is just to make her happy.
You may wonder what you’re supposed to do in this type of situation. It’s easy – you just have to go along with his charade for a little while longer until he stops putting on this show and starts realigning his priorities with your good feelings. At least that’s the easiest solution.
What if you are no longer the center of his life? What if he’s decided that he’s had enough of you? What then?
Of course, there are some other things that you can do as well. Men aren’t usually comfortable walking around with their emotions bottled up inside them.
They want to be free and clear – they want to release their emotional baggage so they can start focusing on the woman that they love.
If you’re around to make him feel good and make him happy and feel secure, he’ll want to come back to you again. If you love him but want to let him go, you can’t afford to let him move on too quickly.
There is a way to get your man to love you again though.
You do it by showing him the value of being true to himself and by letting him know that he’ll never be able to achieve the success or the happiness that he desires if he keeps on pursuing his own goals instead of following your lead.
Men want to be the best man ever, but they can’t do it if they are in love with their own dream woman. You need to give him the chance to realize that he needs to grow up first and that he can’t chase after your dreams.
If you love him though, he’ll see that you’ve got his best interest at heart and he’ll suddenly realize that he has a chance to live his life to the fullest even if you are no longer in his life.