Loving Someone Means Letting Them Go
When we hear the words “letting go” or “loving someone,” our minds often think of letting go of old habits and communing with our higher self.
Or at least, letting go of the ways that do not serve us or others. While letting go may be necessary to move on, loving someone doesn’t mean letting go.
Being in love is choosing to be loved. Loving someone chooses to let go of unhealthy patterns and behaviors that hurt and neglect us.
Most of us have been conditioned to think that we need to be independent and self-sufficient from an early age.
We are taught to value ourselves by how much money we earn and our educational background.
We are taught that a successful life requires getting a good job, getting married, and having children. All of these things are important to our sense of self-worth.
Unfortunately, many of us live in the illusion that these things are essential to our being happy and fulfilled.
Our ideas about self-worth are often based on our experiences and failures in our childhood. We feel inadequate if we don’t have a good job, a secure home, and several children.
So, we feel incomplete without all of those things.
It’s important to remember that the self is part of the whole. What matters to one person might not matter to another.
Our sense of self is a construct of our inner world. We are all unique individuals experiencing different things and emotions.
The truth is, loving someone means letting them go. Once you understand this principle, you can begin to be contented and happy truly.
True happiness does not come from a stable, comfortable, and secure place. True happiness comes from growing into who we are as an individual and trusting ourselves enough to grow beyond those limits.
Growth in this area of our lives is particularly important for those who were never able to love unconditionally.
Those of us who fell victim to our parents’ expectations and who grew up believing they were bad. We can only grow beyond these negative beliefs by understanding what love is all about.
We have to come to terms with the fact that we all have an innate ability to be happy. Our happiness is not dependent on others or on what anyone else thinks.
Insecurity and fear are usually a reaction to situations where we are unsure how to behave. Being assertive instead of dependent can go a long way towards eliminating feelings of doubt and insecurity.
This advice applies equally well to relationships, co-workers, and employers. It is important to express ourselves creatively when it comes to people who affect us.
Sometimes listening is a good way to do this. Sometimes it is better to be silent and let someone know why you are not feeling well simply.
Sometimes it takes putting your own emotions on hold to get through it.
When our partner or co-worker says that they do not feel well and we try to be supportive, this can work in some cases.
However, sometimes simply telling them that they are not well is enough. Sometimes, it is more important to tell them that you are not feeling well than to tell them specifically what you need.
Let them know that you feel their treatment of you has hurt you deeply, and let them know that it is not your responsibility to take care of them any longer.
Letting someone go when they are no longer important is the ultimate show of love. This is not the same as saying that you no longer want them in your life.
No relationship is perfect. There will be problems as long as there is love between two people.
When someone lets us go, it is an important message. It tells us that they are no longer of importance to us and that we no longer need them.
In some cases, we do not want to let them go. When they are no longer vital, it is better to leave them alone and let them feel that they are no longer a part of our lives.