Successful Discipline Techniques
We all have experienced discipline problems at some point. As children we may have had bad examples of how to behave, parents we can blame, or peers that we can’t control.
How do we get back on track to successful parenting and effective consequences for children? First, we need to decide what is discipline and what is not.
Once we know the difference between the two we can move on and begin to create a plan.
One of the most successful discipline techniques is interview interviewing. Interviewing is simply asking questions to discover information about the candidate.
Interviewing skills can be taught, but there are core questions that will reveal an entire picture of what the candidate is thinking.
Some interviewees may appear to be clear and articulate, but there is always a reason why they answer differently.
An interview question should uncover all of the answers that the candidate may conceal. The most common interview question is; what happened during your last interview?
Another one of the successful discipline techniques is to foster parents interacting effectively with birth parents and adopting parents.
Foster and adoptive parents deal with these issues every day, and many of them are similar. Some common problems include; how do you get your clients to communicate and listen?
Do you get upset when others don’t listen to you?
Parenting is built on natural consequences. Natural consequences are the types of discipline that would make sense to parents and those being raised by parents.
A consequence is something that makes you feel bad, and then it makes you do something.
Some parents use physical discipline, like spanking, while others use verbal discipline, such as saying, “Do you get it?” This is called negative behavior.
A more positive discipline approach is called positive behavior. Positive behaviors are simply behaviors that get us the same reaction from our children as good behaviors do.
With this approach, we can use a combination of negative and positive behaviors. This type of approach is called substitution and has been shown to be just as effective as the other approach.
Punishment, on the other hand, is a concept that sounds pretty harsh. In order to teach our children good behavior, we must teach them the consequences for bad behaviors.
With punishment, you tell your child that one time he or she does not get it right. The child continues to get it wrong and so does the punishment.
Punishment does not work; in most cases, the child is going to crave some type of freedom and will continue to do the bad behaviors.
One of the most effective techniques that you can use is interview interviewing.
Interviewing includes observing a person’s interviewing techniques, such as their efficiency, communication skills and the way they manage a team.
When I was working as a volunteer leader, I conducted interviews with both new and seasoned volunteers, and I found that the new leaders interviewed more than the seniors.
This was because the new leaders were very efficient and did an amazing job leading the new volunteers.
These techniques are simple to learn and are really effective. In most cases, when I coach a volunteer team, the first few meetings simply review the interview techniques that have been used previously.
Once you master these techniques, then you will be able to apply these techniques in real-time without even having to be in an interview situation.
As you become more proficient, you will find that being a volunteer leader becomes second nature, and you will find yourself conducting interviews with your team without thinking about what words to say.
You will know what to say because you have practiced this entire process.