The Hardest Thing Is Letting Go Of Someone You Love
What is the hardest thing to do in the world? It might not be the death of a loved one if you leave it to the last minute.
No matter how much you think you are willing to live with your pain and suffering, the last minute will always bring you a little bit of peace as you prepare to move on with your life.
If it is your family or close friends that have had a special meaning in your life, the loss of their love or loss of friendship, the pain can be hard to bear.
One of the hardest things to do in the world is letting go of someone that you love. Losing someone is as painful as losing your breath and the struggle to get through the grief and anger is as real as the loss of a family member.
Grief is such an important part of coping with a death and healing the pain, but sometimes it can be so overwhelming that we lose sight of what’s really important.
We also become fixated on the grief and our focus is caught up with the sadness.
People die for a reason – it is not because we choose to; it is just that the circumstances of death have occurred.
When we let go of the grief and anger and the sadness and begin focusing more on the cause of death, we may find that the hardest thing to do in the world is not writing the final obituary, but rather getting the funeral arrangements ready.
Then we can move forward with the next step of the grieving process.
It is the second hardest thing to do in the world is accepting the inevitable fact that death will occur. If we try to fight this or fight it vigorously, we may end up feeling even deeper feelings of failure and defeat.
We are not trying to stop the inevitable. Instead, we are merely acknowledging the fact of the matter – that it is finally time to accept the inevitable.
The hardest thing to do in the world is not fighting the death – it is accepting the death.
Grief is a powerful emotion, and understanding the way that grief is different for everyone helps us to grieve in the right way.
We all react to loss in different ways, so there is no right or wrong answer to the question of what is the hardest thing to do in the world when dealing with death.
In some cases, the answer might be acceptance. While in others the answer might be denial.
Acceptance is the first step in grief. Accepting that we will lose someone, that the life we were living was short, that we are going to miss the person terribly, but we know that death is inevitable.
Some people call this “acceptance shock,” a term that I find quite intriguing, considering the way that grief has been dismissed throughout the history of the human species.
If we had more accurate information regarding grief, I suspect that our ancestors would have viewed the experience of grief as a very sorrowful ordeal.
And we certainly would not be able to go on living for so many years with such a degree of denial.
If the hardest thing to do in the world is to accept the inevitable, it will not help to feel bitter about what might be missing from the end of someone’s life.
I recall that my father was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease. Before his diagnosis, he had been doing very well.
But when the doctor told him that he was likely to become legally blind, the news took him by surprise. He was devastated.
The most essential fact about grief is that we should not avoid the painful feelings. If you let yourself get discouraged, you will only make the situation worse.
The hardest thing to do in the world is not to grieve, but to get better and live again.