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“What porn does to a marriage?” This is the question that many young men and women ask their partner(s). Often, the answer is unknown or very vague. I was asked that question as well as several others pertaining to relationship issues. The responses from my partners were, “Not a whole lot”, “Not that much”, “Maybe once or twice” and “I don’t know”.

These responses do not provide a viable answer for how to deal with the issue of pornography. The fact remains that pornography is an issue that will always exist. It is a fact that men are wired differently than women. This difference has a direct impact on how they view sex. In short, men want more intense and lengthy sexual experience while women, on the other hand, want a more passive and leisurely relationship.

What porn does to a marriage is therefore a relationship issue that requires communication from the male and female partners. Some may think that it is better to keep your cards close to your chest and just have discreet sex. This may be acceptable when sex is involved in a committed relationship. However, what happens when sex takes a back seat to emotional bonding? This is where communication will be the key to keeping the relationship alive and healthy.

For me, learning how to communicate effectively with my husband about the issue of porn had a huge impact on our marriage. I would get over my objections much quicker and my sex life improved considerably. I would also learn what my husband enjoyed and what he did not. For this reason, I could have sex when I wanted and that allowed me to take care of all of those important things. In addition, we would spend more time alone and that was another great benefit.

Another question that people often ask what porn does to a marriage is about confidentiality. My husband and I had discussed this issue before and I can tell you that it was completely valid. We discussed having a discreet computer and I felt like we were both very satisfied with the decision. Our secret was safe and it worked out really well for us. Of course, there are those people out there who want their information to be kept under wraps and they may have a legitimate concern.

I will not lie to you. There have been moments when I wondered if my husband would ever realize what I was doing with another woman. Thankfully, he did. It didn’t take him long to realize what I was doing because he saw what I was doing on the screen and heard voices. This made me feel much better than it would have if he had never heard about what I was doing with another woman. Therefore, the question of what porn does to a marriage is a valid one.

If he had never heard of me using pornography, then I wouldn’t have been able to get the answer to the question “what porn does to a marriage”. The reason why I am telling you this is so that you will know that I did not use this as an answer when talking to you because this was something that we already talked about and he knew what I was doing. I’m just sharing what I know because this subject is very important to me and affects me on a daily basis. Therefore, I want to be able to help you see how it affects me and how you can avoid it. My goal is not to scare you but rather make you think.

The last question that you need to ask yourself what porn does to a marriage is whether or not it has any effect on your sex life. I know that some married couples that are not having sex have no problem with this but there are others that use pornography during sex and this has led to a lack of sex in their marriage. My guess is that it may not have had any impact on their marriage before but it definitely has an effect on their sex lives now. They are probably wondering “How can I fix this? “.

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